Self-confidence is the only fundamental approach to success

Greetings and wishes for 2010

By Cde. Juta Ndilipune Shikomba (SPYL Deputy Secretary), Windhoek, Namibia

While we are at the beginning of 2010 I would like every person mostly the youth to reflect on what you did last year. This will help you to transform your weaknesses into strength and threat into opportunity, develop your strengths and make the most of your opportunities. If you analyze yourself, this will stimulate and strengthen your self-confidence. You will only gain this if you accept your failure, be happy with who you are, with what you are doing and how you do it. Means, this will be determined on how you perceive your personal worth based on what you are aiming at. You are the only person to attain your purpose in life, your status, and many more will be conquered and achieved successfully if you boost up your ability to stand on your own feet and feel in charge of your life.

A self-confident person never give-up on his/her goals that s/he failed to attain but, smartly re-plan and re-adjust his/her actions and steps by rooting-out the negative patterns that had been obstacles and stumbling blocks . Failure just means you are not yet at the successful and reward zone. Never declare yourself a looser, never allow some people to take control of what you should take, never allow yourself to be a dependent, never allow yourself to be remote controlled, never abdicate your responsibility and be doormat for other people’s benefit. Failure is a price of improvement so pay it in new tactics, mechanisms, methodology and always focus on your needs and desire to successfully attain your dream.

Every way to success has obstacles but when you are faced by challenges, never let them overcome you be patient and face them, increase yourself worth, find a way to destroy them or let them go but, never accept them. Human being are born to succeed and not fail because our strength increases in proportion to the obstacles imposed on it, therefore, never see greater obstacles but always have aggressive strength to overcome them.

Successful person are always guided by their inner feeling of certainty and have positive and realistic perception of their abilities. They reduce on words or theory and put more efforts on action, because action speaks highly than theory. To carry out this successfully always, keep your emotional maturity by knowing who you are and what you have or want to offer to your community, family or to yourself. Only self-confidence gives you the strength and courage to create and attain your dream. Never fear artificial alarm posed to you, but bravely climb a successful ladder. Believe in yourself, understand what you are aiming at and have faith in your abilities, because without self-confident in your own skills, knowledge and understanding, you better never imagine being living life as you want e.g. happy or self-dependent in your entire lifetime.

Remember every person born in the word has or represents something unique and original. Some people call it a dream, because it is just within you and this dream will remain within you and will only be a physical reality when you take action. By doing this, never let other people set limit in your plan of action by labeling on your capability and intelligence. Whenever you are doing something, you have to hear some people say you are trash, yokel, not smart, not qualified or even weaker to achieve your goal(s) and your dream will never be materialized. Always be happy when people consider you the way they assume or perceive you to be, because your reality is in your heart. Always handle criticism positively and believe that, your dream will come true. But if you choose to please or satisfy their feelings then you invade war against yourself and choose to take your dream along to the grave, because it (dream) cannot be delegated nor inherited. Naturally, it is health to be surrounded by challenges, because life without trouble will never gain you extra idea; it will be passive, boring and never expand or broaden your horizons. Difficulties strengthen your mind and make you stronger but, only when you are striving to overcome them. Remember, a wonderful and greatest success in life is the bravely achievement or do what people see or say you cannot do.

When you are in trouble do not be stressed but always try to keep a smile on your face, believe and live in the power of good news every day. Never feel guilty, envy, selfishness, and pessimism, rejected and discouraged because these can drive you back completely and you will never attain your dream. It can also make you feel like you are not really good enough to carry out what you are planning to achieve. When you fall down do not think you will never get up. Always look at yourself and assess your ideas, knowledge, and experience but never build up obstacles in your imagination. Do not let yourself to be guided by the reaction chain e.g.

• To feel being know what others know
• Pretend to fear what others fear
• Hate what others hate
• Point your finger where others are pointing.

Do not neglect yourself, don’t criticize yourself, and don’t waste your effort, energy and time on things which are not for you. Life is not the Olympic game, so do not compete but aim to add value to your skills, knowledge and understanding. Be realistic of what really you want to achieve than being pretending to serve things or activities you do not have vision on. Always know what you are doing and where you want to go. Feel special of who you are, cement your individual strength, feel worth and valve, by attribute these to yourself, yourself-confidence will grow and increase dramatically. It will also gives you day after day peace, joy and see what is achievable in the face of constrains rather than being follow and be part of a reaction chain.

• This year I would like you to knockdown all mental barriers to happiness, concentrate on what is crucial for you, do not attribute yourself to a vicious circle of defeat by under-estimate your capability but always try your level best to feed your brain.
• Set yourself an evaluation list of pros and cons.
• Have faith and solve your problems amicably.
• Do not consider yourself to be the underdog but, confidently commit yourself to your year resolutions.
• Delete I n’t basis (I am not, I should not, I will not, I cannot etc) in your mind and be a path finder.
• Seek help and help others to attain their dreams.

To the parents!

We are the steering-wheel of our children’s success. If your child failed to give you the outcome you had been expecting him/her to attain please find away to motivate him/her, indentify and implement positive stimulus so that next time expected outcome will be unreservedly achieved. Avoid criticism, abuse, neglect, reject or punish your child, because these will negatively affect his/her self concept but always work harder to transform him/her from a fixed mindset into a growth mindset. Inculcate in your children’s mind that perseverance, patience and fortitude, conquer it all and a thousand mile journey started with one step. Quite the contrary every cloud has a silver lining!!!!

Last but not least:

Enjoy and live life to the fullest! But remember, life is a cycle always in motion. If good times have moved on, so will too times of trouble. Then take care!!!!